OPW -- June 16 -- I'm presently at the Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf, in the French Concession, Shanghai. Irena is sitting next to me and we're IM-ing discussing the conversation of a Chinese girl and a German guy sitting right in front of us. I know, we shouldn't be listening in, but hey, they're talking quite loudly and they're right in front of us, so we can't help it. The Chinese girl speaks perfect English and is very attentive and obviously into the guy. In terms of looks, I think HotorNot would score the Chinese girl a 6.5 and the guy 7.5. (I'm a 6.8 on HotorNot, and Irena is a 7 on PlentyoFish).
The guy is 27, graduated in 2001, considered doing an MBA...and here we go, after 30 minutes of talking, 95% of it from him. "I could have left the company for Microsoft...but maybe I don't want to go back to IT." (He's laughing at his own jokes and she's trying hard). "There's all these positive feelings because they've been working with me, and they know me...The GM was there...How were we going to report to the U.S...Anytime things would get tough, we would always delegate...I'm a Marketing Director, but because I only had 9 months left I felt, why should I waste my time..." Ten minutes later he's still talking about work. Two good looking people, obviously smart, but they need help. He needs to get off his high horse and let the poor girl talk. Women like to talk and are attracted and switched on by guys when they listen ,actively and attentively. If a woman isn't talking at least as much as a guy on a date, something is wrong.
Twenty minutes later and he's still at it. Please, internet dating industry, help them! Provide personalized coaching services. ~30% of internet dating users could use some coaching. ~10% of internet daters would pay for coaching and matchmaking services, so I hear. OK, time for a cuppa tea, I have to escape this guy.